Always the Mom…

The boys...oops, the men
The boys…oops, the men

My “boys” aren’t boys anymore — they are men. They range from 21 to 26 years of age.

I’ve always wanted our family to be close, and for the most part we are. Family is one of the things that I value highly. When we would leave the boys for a few hours — or a day or two, the last thing we would say was, “Remember, you love each other!” I know that my friends are precious and special and I am grateful for them. But family…they are my breath, my heart, they matter more than I can ever express.

One night last week I knew that one of our sons was struggling. Decisions needed to be made; provision needed to be found. As I went to bed, my heart was broken — I could barely breath because of my concern for the child I love. I began to pray. I prayed and prayed. This child, this man, was hurting and since I will always be the mom, I was hurting with him. I prayed some more. Suddenly, as if a light switch had been flipped to the on position, I was at peace. I prayed some more — this time thanking God for meeting the need in whatever way He chooses. I thanked Him for this young man and his brothers, for our daughter-in-love, for my amazing husband, and for our family.

Is my boy’s path clear? Are all of the questions answered? No. But I’m the mom and I will pray on.

After this amazing prayer time, a couple of days later we were at a restaurant — all six of us. Mr. Gorgeous and I, along with two of the kids, were having a grown-up, mature, adult-style conversation. Suddenly, my mom’s ears began to pick up the sound of discontent. (Moms — I know you get this!) I tuned out the adult conversation and began listening to the other end of the table. Really? Seriously? These young men were bickering and sniping. They sounded like they did when they were in elementary school! Since I’m the mom, I did the mom thing. I raised my hand in that classic “police officer traffic-must-stop” pose and using my best mom/teacher voice, I said, “That’s enough — we will not be doing this now!” I immediately turned away, back to the conversation I had originally been a part of. Our daughter looked at me, grinned, rolled her eyes, and shook her head. Yes, I’ll always be the mom.

From the highs to the lows — from birth to adulthood — that’s me. I’ll always be the mom. Honestly, next to being a child of the King and the wife of my best friend, being the mom is my favorite!

Grandmothers

My sisters and I with our Grandma Pribbenow in 2008.
My sisters and I with our Grandma Pribbenow in 2008.

I come from a family of strong women.

My Great Grandmother Townsend was a minister’s wife. She died when I was in my early 20s. I have precious memories of her. She lived in a small white house that had beautiful purple and yellow pansies under a window in her yard. The front ditch had water skipper spiders and the great grandkids waded in it. Great Grandma was vertically challenged — okay, she was short. It was an event: measuring to see who was taller — the grandchild or the grandmother. I was 10 or so when I grew taller than she; and she laughed. Her house always smelled really good and when I was there, I felt safe and welcome. I felt as though I belonged. The extended family would have picnics in her small town in a park across the street from her tiny house. The memories are priceless.

My mom’s mom, Grandma Addington lived with mom and I after my parents divorced. As a young woman she was burned and lost mobility in her arm. She learned to crochet as a means of restoring some of that mobility. Believe me, she was an artist with a crochet hook and crochet thread. One summer, when I was a young girl, I spent several days with Grandma and her friend in Albuquerque, NM. Grandma bought me a hula hoop. (Is that how you spell that?) Patience was definitely Grandmas’a virtue that summer — she let me hula hoop in the living room almost all day, every day.

Grandma Prottenguier came into our family when I was 12. She welcomed me not only into her home, but into her heart. I felt at home when I was with her and Grandpa. I use to take Grandma flowers and she always treated them as though they were a treasure beyond compare. She listened to me and was understanding of my feelings as a young teenager. I treasure pictures of her holding our oldest son. She died a few short months later.

Grandma Pribbenow, my dad’s mom, is an amazing woman. She turned 100 years old on July 5, 2013. Her mother apparently said that she was so thankful that Allene had been born on the 5th rather than the 4th, because she didn’t want her daughter to be a firecracker. However, the stories I hear of my Grandmother tell me that Great Grandma was mistaken — her daughter was a firecracker. Grandma left home as a teenager to marry my Grandfather Arndt. She raised her children basically alone. An artisan, she crafted small furniture, made “china” for her grand daughters out of clorox bottles and she hand painted flowers on each plate/dish, and painted amazing pictures of beautiful landscapes and flowers. One of my treasures is rocking chair made from a can with blue velvet upholstery. She made cookies; and she taught me to make cinnamon rolls.

Each of these women were amazingly strong, beautiful, and loving. Besides being able to claim me as a granddaughter (smile), these four women shared another valuable trait that I believe made all the difference in their lives and in the lives of their families. You see, they loved God and served Him with all their hearts. They prayed for their children and grandchildren. They provide a heritage of strength and faith. My life is richer because of them, their love, and their investment in my life. Truly, I am blessed.