A Special Gift

Two former students and I having an good time!
Two former students and I having an good time!

I was at WalMart today and I received an amazing gift. At WalMart? Really? Yes, at WalMart…strange, I know.

I was paying for a prescription when the lady who waited on me recognized me. Please understand, I’ve been teaching in the same school for 10 1/2 years — I’ve met a lot of parents. Truly, I wish I remembered them all, but I just don’t. For eight years I taught 8th graders, 60 to 75 per year. Two years ago, I switched to 6th grade, again 60-75 students per year. This is my third year with 6th graders.

The clerk obviously knew me, remembered that I was a teacher, and asked me how my year was going. We conversed for a few minutes then I received the gift. She said, “I want you to know that you are the only teacher who has ever challenged my son.” I almost cried. I thanked her for telling me that and walked away thanking God.

I became a teacher because I felt called to be one. God has placed me in the classroom to teach children, to encourage them, and to give them a safe and secure place to learn. On the way to that goal, I pray for “my kids”, love them, and dream huge dreams for them. I listen to them, cry with them — and for them, and try to model a life that honors God. There are many things that I want them to “see” in me. I want them to see Jesus and I want Him to plant a hunger in their lives for Him. I hope they see a woman who is happily married, who loves her husband and children, and is incredibly proud of each one. I want them to look at my pictures and to see that the world is an amazingly huge place with wonders galore — places to go, beautiful things to see, and challenges to meet. I want them to listen to my stories and realize that laughter can heal numerous hurts. I want them to learn that they are far more capable than they believe — and that they can do even more than they thought they could.

Children walk into my classroom coming from all kinds of perspectives and life styles. While many come from traditional homes, there are many who come from single-parent homes. Some are hungry or tired. Others are broken, they feel insecure and their lives are out of control. How can I make a difference? How can they walk out of my room stronger and more capable? I do want them to be able to read and understand what they’ve read. And of course I want them to communicate more effectively in writing. But if that’s all I’ve given them, I’ve failed them.

I push my students and because of that, many of them don’t “like” me. Do 11 and 12 year olds like to be challenged? Do I? Probably not, but challenges are good for us. They teach us that we are tougher than we thought. By facing them, we are reminded that we are capable of doing far more than we believed. As we face challenges we become stronger. If a child leaves my class reading better, writing with more clarity and variety, and able to live their lives with more strength than they were before, then maybe, just maybe I’ve succeeded. Do I have bigger dreams for them than just this? You know I do, but I can be content if by challenging them, I’ve at least done this much.

(By the way, I accepted her compliment and am grateful for it. However, I know that many teachers feel the same way I do. We teach, but more than that, we hope to give them skills that will benefit them through out their lives. To you other teachers, thank you for challenging your students as well!)

When I Grow Up I Want to Be…

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When asked, “What do you want to be when you grow up?”, my answers went something like this:

  • A nurse
  • A pediatrician
  • Teacher
  • The first female Astronaut (Sally Ride flew with NASA when I was in first grade, so this came off my list.)
  • The first woman president of the USA
  • A lawyer
  • A travel agent
  • A stewardess

And then I stopped make a list. Because somewhere between being asked for the first time and age 10 or so, I knew what I really wanted to be. I wanted to be a wife. I wanted to be a mom.

Yes, I still wanted to be a teacher or a doctor or a nurse or a lawyer — but even more than these noble careers, I wanted the harder job too. I wanted to have a husband who loved me and who believed that I would make his life better, simply by being a part of it — just like he does mine. I wanted to be a mom — to have children and love them, make them feel safe and protected, and help them to become men (or women) of God.

Then life happened. I was 24 and had officially been called an old maid. After all, if your brother calls you that, it has to be official — doesn’t it? I decided it was time to start seriously looking for a handsome guy. So I looked and I looked and I looked. Finally, I did what I should have done in the first place and I talked to God about finding me a husband. His answer was simple, “Patience, daughter.” And so, I worked hard at waiting. That may seem like an oxymoron, but sometimes sitting and waiting is harder than working. I moved from Colorado back to New Mexico, started in a singles group at a new church and asked God to show me His will.

We had a camp out and I saw a really cute guy — reddish hair, beard, tall, great eyes, and he could sing. Several items on my list of desirable characteristics had just been checked. I flirted. He ignored me for seven months. Finally, I gave up on the cute guy. On Tuesday of the week I “gave up” on Mr. Gorgeous, he called and asked me on a date. He worked nights from 5 pm to 2 am and I worked days from 8 am to 5 pm. We “dated” on the phone during his dinner breaks at 10 pm and during my lunch break when he would bring me a picnic lunch. On the Saturdays that he was off, we went to tourist spots and got to know each other. Six weeks after our first date he asked me to marry him and six months later, I did.

Eleven months after the wedding, our oldest son, Nate, was born; seventeen months later, Phillip joined the family, and three years later we welcomed Ben.

I am exactly what I wanted to be — a wife and mom. I’ve been a wife for 27 years as of this week — and a mom for 26. It’s an amazing life; one for which I am truly grateful! I married the man of my dreams, our boys are men of character — and our daughter-in law is an amazing woman.

I am so incredibly blessed to have been given the desires of my heart.